Making Room in Small Ways
One way I’ve seen people heal from voice trouble is by letting their healing creep in one little bit at a time. They make little pockets of space for better thoughts, better habits, or better intentions. They make room for healing in small ways that eventually add up to the end goal.
We are creatures of habit, would you agree? So, sometimes trying to make all the changes all at once fails us. (Not just sometimes, actually. Most of the time.) We benefit from making small adjustments toward healing in our attitudes or perceptions coupled with small actions because [small attitude adjustments + small actions + repetition + time] wins the race.
The people who succeed at “getting better” start by seeing a few things that are already going well, in spite of their current problems. And to me, that is also a way to make a little room for healing. We can all start where we are, and calm down enough to see all is NOT lost. It never, ever is!
Maybe this is a good place to mention that I’ve passed the 10 month mark on my weight lifting journey. May 11th marked 10 months of being in the gym 4-5 times per week. And guess what? I’ve only lost around 5 pounds, depending on the day.
My old self, the one who loved punishing me for . . . well, anything and everything . . . would be having a field day with this tiny number. “Only 5 pounds??? Seriously???” I can hear that voice, that tone, and I can feel the guilt and shame a comin’ on me. Laaaawwwwd. (My heart hurts just remembering when I used to speak to myself so harshly. Not a fun experience that was, Jedi!)
But, now that I’m better at being kind to myself, I’m making more room for my healing. Tiny, little places where I feel good about what’s happening which then allows to keep going with the plan. In other words, I’m choosing to admit a few things.
- I look a little different.
- I’m eating better because of my new routine.
- My skin is glowier. (not a word, I know, but hang with me.)
- I am physically stronger.
- After 10 months, there are some fundamental changes in my musculature.
And, did I mention – I feel better. Sweet Jesus and Brother Buddah, I feel better in my body.
Which, if I were only looking at the scale, would not be important. I would have stopped going to the gym months ago. Fortunately, I’m learning how to make room for healing with these tiny thoughts and simple daily actions. Which will get me to complete(r) physical healing in the long run. (completer is also not a word, man, but i thought it was funny so again – hang with me)
What does feeling better have to do with it?
Feeling better is kind of everything. Especially when it comes to the voice. We owe it to ourselves to find little places where things are working and feel good, and build from there. Otherwise it’s easy to just give up or go away. Rebuilding vocal function is not always easy, and the road not always smooth or straight. From what I’ve experienced with clients it is usually pretty bumpy and curvy, which is also why I decided to start lifting weights – to see what it feels like to work on a physical goal that feels “impossible” at the outset.
Some of my most successful clients are the ones who cling to their small victories, and avoid going down the rabbit hole when (on the surface) things are not so hot. We all have times where we feel discouraged or hopeless, but if we can find ways to make room for healing – even with little, tiny, better feeling thoughts – we are on track. And that might make all the difference.